Warning: some strong language
In this episode I’m talking to Vedangi Kulkarni, the youngest woman to circumnavigate the world by bike (unverified). At 19 she set off on her own, largely unsupported, to cycle round the world and take on the challenge of a lifetime.
En route, she faced ice, snow, muggings, tears and concussion as well as a true appreciation of what it meant to have friends who really care and strangers who helped when she needed them most.
We talk about her childhood, growing up in India as an only child with a self-conscious start to friendships and whose parents gave her the gift of travelling, both of which stood her in good stead as she initially moved to the UK for university and then took on bigger and bigger adventures.
We discuss the transition from awkward teenager to a young woman who has matured into striking up conversations with strangers and having a newfound appreciation for the closeness of people who “get her”.
You can find out more about Vedangi on www.vedangikulkarni.com and follow her on Instagram @wheelsandwords. Her adventure consultancy, The Adventure Shed, can be found at www.theadventureshed.com
Jenny Tough’s book, Tough Women Adventure Stories, is available on Amazon and in my opinion is absolutely brilliant and a little nuts!
Many thanks to Vedangi for her candid and hilarious stories.
Transcript
Please note transcripts are automatically generated by artificial intelligence so may not be 100% accurate
“SPEAKERS
Vedangi Kulkarni, Catie Friend
Catie Friend 00:02
Hi, welcome to chatting to a friend. I'm Katie Friend. And in this podcast I'm chatting to incredible women about their life experiences and adventures, as well as their thoughts on friendship, community self care, setting boundaries and how they keep healthy, happy and sane. Today, I'm chatting to wpdandy Kulkarni, who is a 22 year old adventurer traveller who loves spending time in the outdoors and pushing her comfort zone. In 2018. she rode 29,000 kilometres around the world in 159 days, becoming the youngest woman to have circumnavigated the world on a bicycle. She was 19 when she started and 20 when she finished, and it was a mostly solo and unsupported journey. I am absolutely thrilled to have her dangi on the show with me today. Hi, Danny, thanks so much for joining me today on chatting to a friend. How are you?
Vedangi Kulkarni 01:03
I'm good. Thank you for having me. How are you?
Catie Friend 01:06
Very well. Thank you. Absolute pleasure to have you on. So obviously, you have had many adventures, one of which was a very grand adventure as Alistair Humphreys would call it cycling around the world 29,000 kilometres. I just want to talk to you about sort of how this has or what you were like before has this changed in relation to your friendships, relationships with other people meeting people around the world? I understand that you travelled a lot, as a child with your parents. Do you think that was something that helped form your ideas and your interest in meeting people around the world?
Vedangi Kulkarni 01:46
Yeah, certainly, certainly. I travel a lot as a like when I was growing up, yes, I travelled a lot. But also, my father used to work abroad. And the fact that every year to kind of spend 20 days in the house and 20 days, somewhere in the world, in the middle of an ocean or somewhere. And every time he has to come back here to tell all the stories of the new people who joined there, or, you know, whatever happens in the middle of ocean, he was just like telling me all about it. And I was like, oh man, like, it sounds so cool that it meets all these people from all the different countries and you know, gets to go these places. Yeah, wonder if I can ever do that. So, yeah, a lot of the Curiosity came from there. But also, when me and my parents used to travel. Like, for example, in 2009, we went for kind of went for a trip in Switzerland. And it was just the three of us, me and my parents. And we were at the train station, wanted to. I wanted to play stone paper scissors with this little guy. He was five, I was nine. I think I think I was nine. I don't remember. Anyway, I ended up like, guessing what the German words for stone, paper and scissors were. And then my mum used to speak German. So she walked over. And then this guy's mom walked over and started chatting. And eventually, we got invited over at there's like for lunch. And we travelled to places with them. And then we stayed over there. So basically, yeah, like, making making friends to travelling and building relationships, like we are still friends with them. And I still visit them quite often. So like, that's something that definitely came from the experiences I had in travelling growing up.
Catie Friend 03:44
So your parents were a huge influence. So your dad especially well, obviously your mum, and her linguistic skills. And and did you do? Did you find I'm gonna come back to your childhood in a minute. But did you find experiences like that? You know, I read often when I read it about adventures, and I read a lot about adventures, that, you know, the world these days is often portrayed to us as a really scary place, and people are bad. And there's all sorts of, you know, very many reasons why you should just stay at home with all the windows and doors closed. But presumably, despite some of the unfortunate incidents you had when you were travelling on your your cycle around the world, that you must have found that deep down and that is absolutely not true that people around the world are good, effectively, essentially.
04:33
Yeah, yeah. I may have had a shit experience with some people. But the bottom line is that the reason that I am alive today and talking to you is because of those amazing people who helped me out of those situations. And, yeah, I it's definitely something that I really kind of give a lot of importance to, because it'll be announced quite often. If that's put me off from travelling or you know, run my bike or going on adventures or going alone and all that, but could you
Catie Friend 05:08
perhaps expand on what what incident you're actually talking about?
05:14
Yes, of course. Well, I was riding around the world, I two thirds swing to the ride in Spain. I got mugged at knifepoint and attacked at knifepoint thrown around a bit. And they were stalking me for a bit before they actually pushed me off of my bike. And yeah, in the process of the whole thing that was held at knifepoint, literally, and the other person was going through my belongings, and then it was thrown off the side of the road. And then my bike fell, like on the top of me. And all of my stuff was like basically spread on the road. And it was it was really like, shit incident like I was, I was unconscious for a few hours. And when I got up, I had to find my way back up and you know, take my bike up, and I have no idea what I was doing. I didn't know which direction I was going in, manage to walk in a direction that I was just like, what that made sense if then we've got so my stuff was pulled across more in one direction than in another. And I just guessed that that's the direction I was going in. Which doesn't make sense because everything happened was we were on a standstill. But whatever. Yeah, walked in that direction found a gas station. And the guy there obviously, is Spanish. I speak English. I don't I don't stand Spanish. So somehow, we were trying to Google Translate. But then I, before we could get to that I didn't remember my phone password. He tried 0000. That worked. Because somehow All my life I've had that work. And yeah, ended up Google translating everything. And I didn't remember anything. So he was finding it really like annoying, but I don't remember anything. And I'd like I said, I might have had my head. And then I had a bump was like, hey, look, I did it. And yeah, after a lot of kind of chatting with him, there was this family who actually spoke English, which ended up taking me to a hospital where we found out that I had a concussion and I obviously, I enjoyed that coffee ate something. And I kept throwing. And I was like, there was like blood, sweat and blood and I wasn't sure what was happening. And I kept getting really bad headaches. My body felt like someone's like, hit me with a truck or something. It was shit. And I just didn't know why that was happening. Because I didn't remember what was happening to me what had happened to me. But yeah, after the after I was back to a motel room, from the hospital. I kind of, you know, calm down and made myself like I literally, when you're so quiet, you actually start remembering things of it. And I kept getting flashes of memory. But when I found that space for myself, to just be in it, what I found that time to be by myself. Somehow it all came back to me and I was like, Okay, this is what happened. Like, only small flashes of memory can be stitched together. And this is what happened. And yeah, that made sense, because I remembered the number of the motorbike that the guys were on, because that's what I was focusing on was held at knifepoint. And yeah, I was trying to also figure out what the guy looked like, who was taking my stuff. I was like, if I ever have to describe to anyone, I can describe him, like, you know, based on his appearance to me, like, you know, he looked like this Bollywood actor or something. But yeah, that was the incident in Spain. But like, the reason I, I was able to figure all this out was because those people that guy who owned the gas station and that family, they actually took time out of their lives, they went out of their way to to help me out and to take me to the hospital to figure out what was wrong with me. They were just as worried about me. As I would say, if my parents were there, they would have been, but I didn't I didn't tell my parents until I was kind of back on the bike and comfortably writing. Gosh,
Catie Friend 09:37
so you find some good people out there to to help and when you did tell your parents and friends what was the reaction, did they you know, I kind of get from reading about you and from having spoken to you before that, you know, your parents would not necessarily likely to be on the first plane to Spain to pick you up. But there must have been hugely And
10:01
yeah, they were they were my dad was like, What the fuck is up with you and your unsupported thing? Can Can we just arrange for someone to kind of drive so that so that, you know, you're safe and and I was like, Look, if there's gonna be a chat about me getting support I'd rather not do it like I'm to stop. And like I made I was being really extra about it like, you know, I didn't, I didn't I don't think I really understood my parents perspective on being that worried because I was in my own kind of pit. So I was like they were, they were really, really, really worried about me and they weren't sure if it was right for me to continue. And like, I wasn't just saying that I was going to continue. I was saying I was also going to write across Russia at that time, which I did halfway, but anyway, and they knew I was going to be winded and they're just like, what are you doing? And at some point, like, another thing was the conflict. concussion is not a big thing in India, like, you know, someone falls on their head, they just fell on their head, it hurts a little bit. It's kind of left at that. Because of that, I had to actually explain to my parents what it what it does to you. And so like, two weeks later, when I was still struggling, I, my dad was like, Hey, you know what, you can still make it. Like, you know, you can still make the 29,000 kilometres in a decent time. Don't need to kind of just because you didn't get the world record, like you know, doesn't mean you still can make it in a decent time. And I remember I was just like, yelling, but I just going, No, I'm absolutely done with this. I'm going to ride my bike and
11:54
whatever face on
11:57
telling me that. I don't think you really understand what what this has done to me. And I don't think you like I hadn't told him the whole thing about what should happen. I didn't tell him about knives. I just told that was mobbed. If I told that I was actually held at knifepoint, I'm pretty sure the reaction by both of my parents would have been different. Yeah. And my mom ended up like, the one thing I've always told my parents is and not contact my friends, because I absolutely hate that. And my mom ended up like messaging all my friends and telling them like, you know, to check in with me, often and all that. And I was doing that anyway, like on the way I was just sometimes because this incident happened when it was dark. Somehow, every time I could like after that every time I wrote in the night or two at night, and I saw a light it really freaked me out. And I would just call him call a friend and chat. And that was that was something that really helped in the first few. Well, yeah, first few weeks of after the concussion, it really helped that I would just call my friends up and just chat to them. And one was based on windows at the time he was in Finland. One was in machine Ireland is either in Ireland or Brazil, one of those. And another one was actually I lived with him. He's like my best friend. And he was a part of the film crew, which kind of saw me in some places and film some sections of the of the ride. And he wasn't like after. After Paris, I believe he wasn't gonna be there for the rest of the world. And I was just like, Yeah, fine, but like when he was gone. I remember like, I was like also calling him a lot. And then there were other friends as well. And just like, friends that initially before I left, I thought were acquaintances. They would just call me up and be like, Hey, how are you? And I was just mad. magically, I would reappear on on their radar, I
Catie Friend 14:05
suppose. So your mom did you a favour by ignoring your
14:08
wishes.
14:10
And it was actually completely different friends.
Catie Friend 14:14
So these are sort of acquaintances that you didn't start? Well, obviously, there was the best friend but people that you didn't necessarily know that well. Is it sometimes easier? Do you think to talk to people that you maybe don't know that don't know you as well?
14:26
Certainly it is it is because I think the people who know you really well. There is also a possibility that they will get worried really easily. And you also like always think about them along with yourself when you're talking. And so in my case, I think more about the person I'm talking to then I would about myself. So in that case, like when I'm talking to an acquaintance I would actually not hold back on my emotions or how I'm feeling I would just be really open And that's like, it doesn't need to be an acquaintance. Or like someone or it could be someone I do not know at all, it could be a stranger. And, you know, I'm really open like that. And it's it's quite funny actually, I think like, someone who doesn't know me at all, if that person sees me talking to another stranger, they would think I'm their friend, actually, because I am that open with other people.
Catie Friend 15:27
And where do you think that comes from? Where does that openness come from? Do you think it's that sort of travelling as a child? Do you think it comes partly from being an adult? You're an only child, aren't you? Yeah,
15:37
I'm an only child. Yeah.
Catie Friend 15:39
Do you think there's an only child element to that, that sort of ability to talk to adults and,
15:43
and other people easily? Yeah, that that's one of the things were also the other travel experiences with my parents, because my mom, she used to encourage me to ask other people where they're from, unlike, you know, and like to kind of chat to other people or ask for help. Or she used to just kind of when we needed to know directions for someplace, for example, my parents would ask me to do it, because they would encourage me to be open like that, and not be shy for asking for help. And I think that was really cool. At the time, I was like, Oh, why do I need to do this? I just want to listen to my music. But yeah, now I really appreciate it. Because I'm not scared of talking to strangers.
Catie Friend 16:30
And I read in your, in your website that you said you didn't have that many friends at school, were you always in the same school? Or did you move around because of your dad's work? Or
16:41
no. So like, dad's work didn't really affect where we lived as much. But I think, until I was seven or eight, I was in a different place than where my, like, arrest of my primary school and secondary happened. And I think, yeah, I didn't really have anything to do with moving places, it was more about just totally how it was. And I think I've always had a little little so I've grown up when my dad used to be out of the country, I never really got on really well with my mom. So because obviously, she was alone and like ultra taking care of me. And she had to, she wasn't able to see things, he wasn't able to do the things that she wanted to do. And then the frustration would kind of come out on me. And it was like, I don't know, it was it was abusive. And I kind of got really, I used to get really nervous I i was i wasn't I didn't find it easy to talk to people my age, or I didn't find it easy to express myself when in school, or whenever like group trips and stuff like, you know, school trips, I wouldn't go on them because I was scared, I wouldn't have anyone to sit next to me. Or I was just like, oh, man, like, I'm going to be alone again. And again. Like when I was actually in school, you know, when when you have lunch break and stuff, I used to be sitting alone, I was pathetic, honestly, as the sitting alone by myself and eating it. And I was like, honestly, how am I going to spend the rest of my life like, I remember, like, I distinctly remember thinking that and I would have never thought that. Like when I moved here, I would be so comfortable with all that. And I would be so comfortable with being by myself and having my own company. But in the school, there was a problem because I was also bullied a little bit. So that didn't help. But I didn't have any friends of my own. Who are girls, basically. So I got better with the guys. But then it ended up in a really weird way because it was also some of the guys which will like booing you know, it's just like, Who are my friends who weren't? And I remember this thing because I even like, yeah, this really bothers me even now that I did that at the time. But I remember asking people who are my acquaintances at the time I was what 1213 something like that. And I remember asking all those people if there's something annoying about me that they don't want to be friends with me and asked every single person that I thought had that thing. And I literally I and they were really honest, and apparently I was annoying, and I was just like it was it was really funny, but it was also really sad.
Catie Friend 19:42
And when you say annoying, like did they elaborate and you know, because
19:46
oh yes, they elaborated painful, it's painful.
Catie Friend 19:50
Did you think do you think you do think that changed you? Or did you change behaviours in any way? Or did it make it easier for you to understand? the sort of person that you were or how did that how did it affect you What happened?
20:05
I think I got more comfortable with having that lunch alone. You know why? Because I realised that I spoke with my parents about this when my dad came back from work. I remember for like, when he was back for his 20th eating, I told him that I did this. And then he was just telling me that you don't need first seat, you don't need to get on with everyone. And second, like the kind of person you are, or you think you are, there's nothing wrong with that. So I told him what my what my friends and yours Look, that's bullshit. That's just them being teenagers. You read books, you write stuff, and I was I was writing, I call it the manuscript. I was writing a book with my hands at the time, it was funny. And, and my dad was saying that that's actually like, like, he said that I was being more I was, I wasn't, I don't know, he said that I was being more grown up than I was at the time. So I wasn't being a teenager. And that's why they, they like, that's why they said all those things. And that's why they thought that I wasn't, I was mature, or I was doing things which were little can be won by age.
Catie Friend 21:22
Do you think they felt a little bit threatened that you seemed different? Or, as your dad said, more grown up?
21:28
it I think, I think they just found a bit strange. Like, you know, you kind of get along with people who aren't like you, and I wasn't like them. And I didn't, I didn't. Yeah, I kind of made my peace with that at a point. I was like, actually, it's not bad that I didn't have friends in school. And it's not bad that I don't have friends of the same gender, wherever I do have and like, it's okay. And I kind of got better at that. Because then like, I remember that year that I realised that I read more books than I ever had in my days before. I was just like, I read books, I played football, I, I did everything. I rode my bike, I did everything else. And I remember, like, making myself realise that look, other people don't define you, you define yourself. And yeah, my parents really helped with that as well. Because Yeah, they would, they would ask me every self and if, if everything in school is okay. And I'd be like, well, I don't go to school trips, I asked you guys to take me somewhere. And you know, we used to go on family trips, instead of me going to school trips. Because I told them that I'm worried. I don't think, like, you know, when, when people don't like you, you start getting worried that something bad's gonna happen, and no one's gonna be there to help you. And I was really worried about that. Because at the time, like, like, as a 1213 year old, when you're worried that people are not going to like you, and they're not going to help you. You don't know if you can help yourself either.
23:15
You know, so?
Catie Friend 23:18
Yes, no, I'm just, I'm quite, I'm struck by the fact that you realise that quite an early age, you said that people other people don't define you. I mean, do you? Do you have any idea that of how, what a mature thought that is? Because there are people a hell of a lot older than you. I've still not figured that out.
23:39
Oh, I didn't. At the time. I don't realise I'm like, even now I need to make myself realise again and again, that hey, like other people, like, not everyone will like you. And it's okay. Because I like there's so many people that already know that don't like the way I am, but then I'm with the support of friends and my parents as well. I always kind of come back to the whole other people don't define you thing. And it's like, it's phases that make me realise that, okay, yeah, yeah, you kind of come back to who you are and what you do, like, you know, don't think
Catie Friend 24:18
I read that you found sort of friendship and relationships, more in your extracurricular activities, including your football and that sort of thing. Well, not as much. Well,
24:30
yeah, a little bit in football as well, to be fair, but yeah, I sucked at football, like I was, I I didn't I don't never like to run so I was stuck at the goalposts. I was goalkeeper, but I was fearless in terms of going for the polls. I would, I wouldn't be afraid of just you know, diving for the ball. And I've broken my nose several times. I've got hit in my head like kick several times, which might be which might explain why I'm so crazy. But anyway,
25:00
But yeah, I,
25:03
when I was playing football when I was playing it with with the guys, I knew I was not as strong. And I think that helped me make friends with the guys. But when I was playing with girls, because I was at the goalposts and because I didn't have this whole commanding, I don't know, personality. I don't have a commanding personality, let's face it, I can be the person standing at the goalpost going, all right, go for the ball, do this do that. Like just I don't think I'm the one yelling at people to do that. So I was in and I realised, and I think I was also afraid of the other other girls because I was, frankly, a pushover. So remember to national camp. I was washing my clothes and wash basin. And I had them and everything. No, my mama taught me what to do when I was you know, following your instructions doing on that by myself. And the girl saw that they didn't know what to do. So they asked me if if I can do it for them. And then I was like, Oh, yeah, they're trying to be friends with me. They're being nice. Oh, yes, of course. I did it with him. And then for like five days straight, they kept asking me, I didn't even realise that the correct thing to say was Oh, let me teach you how to do it so that he can do it. So yeah. Anyway, learn from that. And that was the camp, which was the end of my football career. Right. When after that I switched to cycling. And that's worked really well for me, I would
Catie Friend 26:41
like it. Yes. And so you met lots of people through that was your cycling club or just meeting with people?
26:49
Not always in cycling club? Oh, that's funny, actually. Because I went in, I went for a short kind of cycling trip in the Himalayas with my, like, ex boyfriend. And when I was there, I remember. I remember meeting this guy who was like, I think it was like 30 something year old. And he was I just asked him about like, bunch of mountaineering questions, because I was into mountaineering. So we had a good chat about mountaineering. And he, he was saying that I was really good at the cycling part of the trip. And like, you know, if I wanted, I could do the whole whole road, which goes across Himalayas, essentially. And I was like, No way, I would love to add, and then he was like, hang on, how old are you? And I said, I was 17. Oh, we do it at like, so it was youth hostel associations, which which were doing that thing. Yeah, it also associations of India, they had organised that little emmalin adventure. And then it's Grant amalan adventure, which is kind of I would say, That's expedition worthy. Yeah, that Himalayan route that are done. They do it in groups. And they, they make it sound and look really fancy. And he said to me that look like because you're under 18, we might not be able to take you on. And then I kept in touch with him. And I would message him with, you know, what, what sort of Route should I take? What sort of stuff Should I carry and all that. And eventually, like, he became a really good family friend. So like, I still talk to him. He's like a mentor to me contest. And he tells me what stuff I should go or in terms of, you know, get get at the time, I needed to buy a new bike for this and all that. So, you know, he helped me through that process. Until like, even when I came to the UK when I needed to buy a bike. And even after the round world thing when I needed to prepare for Silk Road, and I was like, Oh shit, I'm standing on a mountain bike. I can't understand the power variations and putting in so much power. And I'm not going as fast and he knows the scientific things behind it as well. So yeah, like, somehow through the six day trip that I've gone to, I ended up meeting a friend who encouraged me to do this whole, you know, this ride across Himalayas and I think that sort of relationships that you can have that get forged in the mountains, I suppose. Yeah, you don't easily kind of forget about them let go and like, you know, you kind of hang on to them for like, a long, long time. And I think this is awesome because he in the last part of my ride around the world, in the last part of India think it was last 1500 2000 something kilometres. And at the time, I was like, Oh my god, I only have this smart left. So happy about being able being at a place where I could say that, but anyway, and he had joined me for that. And I remember having something a similar sort of chat with him when I was writing there. And I was telling him that, hey, do you remember that I'd come up to you. And I'd asked you all these questions about mountaineering, and I did not know that you knew everything better. And yeah, it's really cool.
Catie Friend 30:28
And so you think that changed in some way, the way you view friendships did that, it seems like it's kind of a pivotal point, finding someone who was interested in the same things as you and didn't perhaps view as, you know, a kid, the weird kid that, you know, that reads books and so on. I
30:46
I love the fact that I've always been able to make better friendships and all that with people who are older than me. Because somehow I just managed to make a conversation that works, that they don't find annoying that that just, it just happens to work. I don't know how to explain it. It's always kind of it's been a case quite a few times now. And yeah, yeah, I think that's definitely. Yeah, that's definitely changed the way I look at friendships as well. But then my closest friends are kind of around my age. And I think that's really cool. But that didn't happen for a long time. When I move to this country to the US
Catie Friend 31:33
old were you when you moved to the UK?
31:36
I had just turned 18. Like literally five days after I turned 18 and moved
Catie Friend 31:40
and you came to you went to Bournemouth to study is that correct? Yeah, yeah.
31:45
I came here. I didn't know a single person. It was really fun. And what
Catie Friend 31:50
what made your connections like How did you meet people? Was it through your course? Was it through cycling? Was it combination?
31:59
I saw I had gone to a cycling social, but I found it. Yeah, as a hellenized, as a person of colour, walking into a very light place, I always found being really found myself being really, really, really nervous. I wouldn't. I remember the first year of my school law, school, sorry, university, I wouldn't like look up and walk, I would look down. Like I would like, you know, not even on my phone, I would just look down on my feet and walk. And I was like, one like, you know, I didn't have much confidence at all. And I think it was riding my bike. When I was not in uni that actually built my confidence slowly, in terms of the fact that, hey, I just wrote 300 kilometres, oh, maybe I can, you know, feel stronger about myself and feel better about myself. And I can do better. And I remember, because there were people in cycling club who found about me doing these weirdly long rows and more, or long rides more often. They kind of like, that's how I started kind of chatting with people. But then I would refuse to
33:15
go on group rides.
33:16
I never know, I still haven't gone for a single group ride with the club. And I was I was the president of the club and I never went on a group ride. You know why? Because I just can't, like I can't, I think it must have been that thing. When I didn't go to school trips, it could have been that I just cannot cope with riding bikes in a group like with other people, they just kind of I go with, if there's a couple of people I go, and mostly they are like good friends of mine when I can choose to go with other people. But coming to the UK made me realise that I can I can choose who I want to be friends with, I can choose who I do not want to be. I can like I have the kind of ability to make those decisions. And I really like that. And yeah, cycling. The friends that are made from cycling are kind of Yeah, the other ones that I actually am even going to spend my next birthday with more like and speaking about friendships. Last year. I went to this, I rode my bike from Belgium, to Morzine in French Alps with a friend of mine, but never done bike biking before. And she's like a she's one of my close friends. She's, again, she's a best friend. And she's the one that I said was like either in Ireland or Brazil and I was riding around the world. And I spoke with her a lot and I spoke absolutely like we would talk about anything just about anything. And for a long time like two three hours and she's quite adventurous and I remember after our on our last day of the ride to moving or climbing that big hill, remember telling her that this is certainly going to be the highlight. Like now there's going to be 40 other people, all of them are my friends, but there's going to be 40 other people how, like, you know, this is too much.
35:12
And
35:14
God said hello to people. And I remember somehow, like, I realised how much of a difference three years can make. Because that time, I was totally comfortable chatting with everyone. I was even drinking some some buco. While not some A lot of it.
35:33
And I was just,
35:34
I was so comfortable mingling with people at that point, and I just couldn't believe it. Because that's, that wasn't me.
Catie Friend 35:42
Can you think of maybe a couple of things that, I mean, we've talked a lot about a lot of things, but what do you think were the main reasons Do you think the confidence of taking on such a big challenge? And as you say, maybe learning to to be in your own in your own company? Definitely.
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I think it was the fact that I realised that I can rely on myself I can be by myself, and I can be comfortable with that. That was that really boosted my confidence. And so much so that, like, I met someone, like at the, at that trip with my friends, and now I live with him. Like, it's funny how that works. Like, I never had the confidence with like something.
Catie Friend 36:29
As in a partner.
36:30
Yeah, yeah. Oh, lovely.
Catie Friend 36:32
I was gonna ask you actually about your friend, you talking of living with people, your friend that you said, came with you did some of the filming? He gave up? Being at university for good or for a year? Or what to help you for a year for a year? Yeah. That's extraordinary. You see there there that tells me something about what kind of friend You must be that somebody believed in you so much, and that you gave him the confidence to, you know, to say, right, I need to properly knuckle down and help this person.
37:00
Yeah, it was insane. I didn't I, I think it came to me as a surprise as well. So I remember we were in a bike cafe talking about risk assessments for this round the world. Like, journey. And we were at, obviously, at the time, I was going for the world record. And also, we were noting down all the everything that could go wrong, basically. And he was the one who was like, he was telling me how everything could lead to death. And you know, I would just try and hold back and he would just not go back and just tell me the whole thing. And I was like, Oh, damn, like that can kill me too, then Okay, then fine. And then everything we'd like to risk level for somehow, because we were just going for those kind of things. And I remember that was the time when it's kind of like I was and then he said, but he was thinking of deferring from university for that year. So that he can join me for some bits to film those. But, and, and I was I was initially look, no way, like, an hour away. I was like, hang on, you're telling me? No, you've already done it, haven't you? And I was like, Yeah, yeah, I kind of give him get a row wrote, he wrote to someone and in some department in university, and I didn't even know that. And I know for a fact that he was also facing kind of a rough time at the time. And he was, yeah, he was facing really rough time between like, in early 2018. So he saw this as an opportunity to jump in and, you know, kind of get involved in something more adventurous that will help him see more of a world and all that as well. And I was it was awesome. Like, and yeah, he knew he meant the world to me for that was awesome.
Catie Friend 38:58
That's fantastic. Now, I just wanted to touch on something you said a minute ago, when you arrived in the UK as a person of colour? You didn't feel quite? Did I understand quite welcome. Or like you had a place amongst all the white faces? Is that in your accrual? If that's the right word of friends, over the years? Do you have a mixture of friends from different cultures? No. Or is it not something that is in the front of your mind?
39:30
I have got our friendships from like different colleges now. Yes, I do have friends from different who come from different cultural backgrounds now, and I think that helps the part of me which kind of you know, first came in the country and didn't feel very welcome. But I think the reason it didn't feel really welcome at the time was because I was in a culture shock. None of the things that I saw around me were part of my life before that. You know, seeing people on phones all the time. For example, like everyone who would sit in the cafeteria, I was used to, I was like, I don't know, if you go to a cafe in India, like now probably in a city. Yeah, people would be on their phones as well. But otherwise, you sit in mom's, like, you know, you just strike a conversation you make you talk to people like, and I always grew up like that. So I found it really strange. Like, I didn't feel like it was very accessible to actually reach out. And, yeah, I think that was like, the part which Really? I don't know, which really?
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Yeah,
40:43
I think that was, that was the reason I just didn't feel like it was very accessible to talk to people. And, like, over the time of the ears, when I have built friendships kind of I, I have, I would like to think that I've tried to be more accessible because of that experience, or those experiences. Yeah, I would like to think
Catie Friend 41:11
it sounds to me, like, the friendship and sometimes the lack of friendships have played such a huge part in taking you to where you are to have achieved such an enormous thing in at such a young age, because I think back to myself at your age, and I was mainly just concerned with when how quickly Friday would roll around at university and and I could go dancing. And I just I feel like, you know, it's such a vulnerable age, the sort of teen years and late teen years and you took this awkward friendship stage and turned it into something that, really, you've achieved an enormous amount, how much do you think friendship or lack thereof has driven you to do what you've what you've achieved so far? A
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lot. So yeah, that's always been a factor. And what I've done and how I've done it, for example, when I first came here, within a few months, I left for a bike ride across the country. And I remember thinking, well, no one's gonna want to follow it. Like, you know, I don't really have anyone to actually talk about this with. And I, I had this inner, I've got nothing to lose mindset at that point. And I think that really drove me to talking with more strangers along the way. That was like, Yeah, I think that overlooked part of me, which was like, knocking on stranger's doors and being like, Hey, I'm the dunking meeting. I'm from India, I recently moved here. And I'm just exploring the country. And can I have a cup of tea with you or something? I've done that people have loved it. And they are welcomed me in that welcomed me in their homes. And, you know, amazing. And, yeah, they have also some of closed doors in my faces. And I don't think much of that. But I think that, like these incidents, these incidences have made me feel more comfortable with being by myself, I would say, and these incidences made me realise that even if I didn't have anything that I do know, I will still be able to survive, just through the power of communication. And yeah, I think that's, that's what it's done. And then, obviously, yeah, I think that that that ride really kind of strikes as a highlight to, to your question.
Catie Friend 43:44
And it finally started because we've spoken before, just as a very late disclaimer in the in the podcast, but I know that you have had the guts to phone up some pretty impressive people and interview them. Can you tell us a little bit about that? Oh, yeah, yeah.
44:03
Well, I recently launched a course called adventure planning Crash Course. And I realised that because I picked up inspiration from from books and everything of all these adventurous people. I would like for people who follow my course to also take inspiration from Yeah, so I just reached out to all the people that I looked up to personally. And basically, our people like Jenny tuff, who is running across every mountain, like he's running across a mountain range of every continent, and I just, like, messaged her if she was okay with doing an interview. And then there was Jochen tiller, who I knew at the like who I knew was who kind of manages some really awesome people like Alastair Humphreys and I love this word Justin Gosling and all that was like, gosh, like Shane and respond and turns out he had like, emailed me and it went in my spam or something. And yeah, she was really keen. Then there Sean Conway, who, literally on one message, he was ready for it as well. And there was mad pycroft. So. I remember when the adventure podcast first started, I had a dream that I would kind of either I would like to do something worthy enough to be invited on that podcast. And it started in 2018. And remember, at that time, I
45:31
was like, Alright,
45:32
I give myself two years to do something worthy enough to be on there. Now, like, I just messaged Matt, when I was launching this course about how how much I love that podcast first and second. And how much I love following the phones by cold house and then how much I would like for him to interview, do an interview with me for for my course, and use euros down for it. And it was wonderful. And like, I think I messaged him on Instagram. Then I messaged him on LinkedIn and on Twitter. And he he told me when we actually spoke, he told me that he really liked my process. Like that. So now that's the thing that people have told me is annoying about me. But like when I reach out to people who kind of you know and look up to they have actually liked it. Even markets at that mark Beaumont. Yeah, I reached out to him as well, which was back in 2017. And reached out to him saying, Ma'am, I want to do this right around the world. And you know, I was gonna write to Kendall at the time from bone with which is really long distance. And I did it in like two days. And I think I'd done like 350 kilometres each day or something. And I had had bruised ribs at the time, because I fell off from my staircase in the house, and, oh, man, it was such a painful ride. But when I got there, I remember, I attended Mark's talk, and then we're having drinks mark and Sean Conway. And I was insane. I didn't, I would have never thought I would be in a situation where I'm having drinks with two people that I absolutely look up to and followed adventures for so long and all that. So it was quite crazy. But yeah, anyway, reached out to him as well. And I think it's, it's just about reaching out and putting yourself out there with so many people, it's, it makes a difference. When you're reaching out to people who you look up to those Actually, it's, it's more scary than reaching out to a stranger. Because there's like this bit where you're worrying about their judgement towards you as well.
Catie Friend 47:53
And there's an expectation because you feel like you know them. Yeah, because you've read their books, or you've listened to their talks. Or I reached out to somebody quite recently on Instagram, because I just read her book in a big kind of, hey, do you want to be on my podcast? Zero answer. And after took me about two days ago, she's probably thinking, I don't know you. So I feel a little more formal email may actually be appropriate. But you're right. You have an expectation of them because you think you know them, but they have absolutely zero clue who you are.
48:30
Yeah, that's that's a scary.
Catie Friend 48:33
So tell me just very briefly about your new adventure. You mentioned it just a minute ago. But tell us a little bit more about what you're doing at the adventure shed. Is that right? Yeah.
48:43
Yes. So I recently launched something called the adventure shed through which I help other people plan their adventures. So so far, I have to pull polar explorers for whom I'm planning their polar journeys, basically polar expeditions. And then there's someone who is doing a travelling around the world. There is some who is planning a really, really, really long running expedition. And yeah, there's also someone who's kind of planning to do like cycling around the world but not actually circumnavigation as persons planning to ride in like every country, you know. So yeah, I am helping these people plan their expeditions, but also support in terms of brand management. So you know, managing the social media or making like long term plans for them and helping them while helping them make the long term plans to be fair, I don't make them I helped them make them and along with that, I realised that I may be just 21. But I do have some sort of experience from the mistakes that I've made to talk about what not to do, when you're putting adventure together or what to do when you put an adventure together? Or I say, so yeah, I launched something called adventure planning crash course in which I talk about the elements of planning an adventure, or an expedition. And in terms of it says videos, there's workbooks. And there's interviews with the guest experts that I spoke about earlier. And yeah, I've really shifted the video part of it. But I promise it's still gonna be good enough to figure out you know, what it's about. But yeah, that's that's kind of what I've been doing will be adventure shed. Great. And
Catie Friend 50:37
lastly, sort of wealth penultimately. You have also been featured in a new book called tough women, which is edited by Jenny tuff, who you mentioned earlier. Oh, yeah. You're in some very, very good company in that book. Oh, man. Yeah, I'm
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starting a company of giants aren't shy. It's crazy. Like, I, I never thought this would come up. Like I remember. It was, I think these people, the other people in the book were contacted last year to be in the book. And I was contacted, like in March. And, yeah, because I was just chatting with Jen. And she's like, Oh, absolutely forgot to tell you. I was gonna wait until Atlas mountain race to actually meet you in person and tell you this, but and then yeah, she said that she's doing this book called tough woman adventure stories. And then she told me who was going to be in there. And she was like, would you like to contribute a story for that? And I was like, holy shit, okay.
Catie Friend 51:39
They're all so beautifully written as well, what struck me was not just the, well, there's a level of insanity. Let's face it, amongst all of you. But some of us mere mortals may struggle to ever achieve. But, and I say that with the greatest of respect, actually. But you know, there's this the grit and determination and the powering through and things are really bad. But what also struck me about all the stories was, how beautifully written they were. And how evocative and how thought out and how I really felt like I was there. So tough women is out now edited by Jenny tough stories of incredible female adventures, more of which we should hear about all the time because my word, you are all absolutely hard as nails. And how can we follow you? Where can we find you on Instagram, or that sort of thing?
52:34
on Instagram, on wheels and works on Twitter as well on wheels and words? And yeah, on Facebook. My name is Dan Guccione,
Catie Friend 52:44
there's a page brilliant, which I will put in the podcast notes. There's the correct spelling, and to make sure everybody finds you. But then get it has been an absolute pleasure. It's always a pleasure for me to talk to you. Because I just find you the most extraordinary woman really, I do. And I'm old enough to be your mother. So I find it extraordinary that you have this wealth of life experience already at such an early age, I cannot wait to see where you go next. Must be quite hard to talk a trip around the world.
53:16
Thank you for having me. And it's always lovely to talk to you. I say that every time we speak. Yeah, it's always lovely to chat to you. So thank you so much.
Catie Friend 53:26
My absolute pleasure. And we will catch up again soon. But in the meantime, all the very best.
53:31
Awesome, thank you so much.”